DESIRES

                          
It is a known fact that when we're attracted to a person.

Our bodies have a way of tuning to want that person.

A kiss would stir up a lot of other series of action.

 A clap often than not leads to a dance.

There are lots of relationships where the unmarried couples pray together and sleep together.

God cannot be mocked neither can He fellowship in the same place where sin constantly frolics; Jeremiah 16:17 - For mine eyes are upon all their ways: they are not hid from my face, neither is their iniquity hid from mine eyes.

A Godly relationship is one in which the couple understands all the scientific and factual 'chemistries' that go on between their bodies but decide to put God as priority, the relationship becomes an altar for God to dwell.

Measures need to be in place because as much as you do not want to indulge in any preactivity that might lead to falling into sin, saying it isn't just enough.

Praying and acting on the directives given to you both by God is paramount.

That brings us to the basics, both partners must be actual doers of the Word of God because it takes both partners determination to make a relationship Godly.

Therefore; 2nd Corinthians 6:14 - Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

Once that foundation is established, measures that both partners agree to, must be in place.

My Momma would always say "why be in such a hurry for something that you would enjoy for a lifetime".

Many relationships have tilted out of the will of God based on 'there's nothing wrong in kissing' and then his hands moves down and cups a feel, you both then give excuses 'we were caught up in the moment', no steps are taken to curb that 'in the moment' and you both keep putting yourselves 'in the moment' and you still kneel down to pray together?

 God knows those who are His and that's a fact; Matthew 15:8 - This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me.

No one says it's easy.

I, myself, have had moments when I wanted him to kiss me and just get to feel his lips on mine but the bible never said; "by your strength shall ye overcome or conquer", rather it says; Zechariah 4:6b- Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts.

What helps keep I and my partner's head straight is:

1) Who do we want ruling our affairs?
Luke 16:13 - No servant can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.

Either God rules over your relationship or the devil, choose wisely.

2) We communicate about these desires: do not make your relationship seem like you both are non-hormonal species.

Talk about it, pray together about those desires, asking God to help you both curb it, by asking Him to put your flesh under subjection to His Word.

3) By having the same goal in mind: Understand that at the end, you both will still get to enjoy your desires in a much acceptable way before God (marriage).

 Why the rush?

4) Keep your communication clean: No sexting!

 No mushy mushy sexual talk, even when communicating about your desires towards one another in order to pray and find ways to curb those desires from becoming a reality in the time being, try and find words that won't cause damage.

You want your partner feeling closer to God after the discussion and not all aroused; Colossians 4:6a - Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt.

5) Make sure both of you are determined to uphold these measures and directives: Amos 3:3 - Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

I and my partner came up, with the help of the HolySpirit, with a measure to implement, that in the moment of feeling aroused or wanting more than we can participate in, we communicate and walk away.

Illustration: so imagine us just having, perhaps, a walk and hormones kicks in. 

The world style is tell him and ask if he feels the same way which then leads to some slow motion and then the kiss or if I want to go in the Mexican soap opera style, just grab him and kiss him.

Well, as a Child of God, i should be able to tell him how I feel, he should understand and give me some space.

Not look at me and caress my face.

Not stay so close to me.

 Not say "let's pray" when my hormones are dancing cultural dance. 

He could stroll somewhere and pray for me or do any other thing for some hours or so, not stay, don't stay!

I, too, should also pray and ask God to help calm my raging hormones. 

2nd Timothy 2:22a - Flee also youthful lusts.

1st Corinthians 6:18 - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.
When both partners are determined to make God ever present in their union, they will both put in the work.

6) Pray concerning your thoughts and think about what you're thinking: Joyce Meyer in her book: Battlefield of the Mind made me understand that the battle starts from our minds before it even metamorphoses into reality.

She said "think about what you're thinking".

Some partners do not engage in fornication but their minds and imaginations have PhDs in conjuring the act.


2nd Corinthians 10:5 - Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.

Our thoughts matter.

 What we think and how we view people in our minds really do matter to God.

Pray for one another, communicate, also fast together.

You both don't have to be in the same vicinity or locality before you both pray and fast together, pick a day and wait upon the Lord together.

There are no specific 5 or 10 ways to build a Godly relationship or home.

I and my partner keep learning and unlearning each day and so do we all.

Proverbs 3:5 - 7 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

A Godly relationship is a relationship whereby the partners understand that in order to have God maintain their union.

 They have to be determined to keep their hands off each other and keep their hands raised up to God.